Monday, August 25, 2008

The Honeymoon is Over

Well, for literally months I've been completely enamored with Facebook, keeping in touch with far-away relatives, reconnecting with old friends, and spending spare hours playing word games. I considered it a good goal (why???) to reach 100 friends this year. Conveniently I have a lot of relatives, so that boosted my count quite a bit. I'm there now, no longer sure why that was important to me.

Now, I'm not so sure about this whole social networking thing. I mean really, there are some people for whom I'm perfectly content to wonder - or not - "what ever happened to them?" without ever needing an answer.

Probably we weren't ever that great of friends anyway. Or we happened to walk the halls at the same high school, but because you dated someone for a while 15 years ago that I'm still actually friends with, does not make you my friend. Being an ex-boyfriend... well, if we had pulled off "let's be friends," I wouldn't need Facebook to tell me that. Being a friend-of-a-friend that I met once 4 years ago does not make you my friend.

So if you are already my friend on Facebook, that means I am actually interested in knowing what's happening in your world. If it's been a long time, I regret not having been in touch. I am grateful for your friendship during a phase in my life, however brief or long ago, and hope that just maybe we'll be able to keep in touch better now. So I don't regret hopping on the bandwagon. It has been a lot of fun. Maybe I've reconnected with you there. And that was definitely worth it.


  1. That's pretty much how I've always felt. It was fun to get reconnected with a few select friends I haven't seen in a while, but other than that, I think face*book is pretty lame.

  2. You took the words right out of my mind regarding friendships. The only thing Facebook has done is contribute to my obsessive behavior. The instruction to "have self control" is enticed by this website - The question remains for everyone - Networking or just TMI?

  3. I've started to become a "discerning Facebook Friender". After the initial "honeymoon" for me was over, I started to block "friends." It was amazing to me that people that never spoke to me in high school suddenly sought me out to be one of their Facebook Friends. Strange.